Couples Therapy

Being deeply loved by someone gives

you strength, while loving someone

deeply gives you courage.

-Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher

You have found your person, the one who makes your soul dance. You have shared so many wonderful memories together, but something happened along the way and now that feeling has changed. You don’t feel heard, understood, or even respected by the person who looked you in the eyes and said “I love you”.

Couples Therapy Services

Trauma and Couples Therapy

If you or your partner have ever been through something traumatic, it can have significant impacts on the relationship. Couples therapy can help heal PTSD symptoms.

Types of concerns I most commonly work with

Communication problems, decreased intimacy, emotional distance, feeling like you are just roommates, overall connection, reconnecting after trauma (even if it was childhood trauma)

Assessment

I use a three session assessment and an online questionnaire to help identify all the underlying problems and struggles so that we know exactly what to target. Think of this as the testing to know what the problems are.

Learning

After we finish assessment and planning, we will begin the process of identifying and changing patterns, learning needed tools to increase connection, and using skills learned outside of the session to continue positive change

Reconnect

Start to reconnect with your partner in ways that you may have never thought possible. Continuing the work learned in therapy.

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Relationships are hard.

They start out at an amazing place, then life gets in the way and things change. You look at your partner and something is off. Maybe one of you went through something that you just cant move forward from, and it has changed the relationship into something you do not want. Your arguments get heated quickly and you cannot find a way to move on. Couples therapy is a wonderful place of healing. To go through the process, changing yourself and altering your relationship with the one you love at the same time has limitless positive effects. I have worked with so many couples who feel disconnected from each other, who feel like the relationship is more “work” than enjoyable.

How I can help

When working with couples, I use my training in both Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples improve the way they communicate so that they can feel secure and loved in the relationship that is most important to them. Gottman therapy is a scientifically based method of treatment that helps couples reconnect, while EFT helps people change the patterns they are stuck in.

Couples therapy can help you and your partner:

  • Have more fun and feel more connected

  • Improve positive, effective communication

  • Feel more valued, respected, and understood

  • Be able to reach for and take in comfort from each other

  • Have fewer arguments that lead to anger and hurt

  • Develop an increased ability to respond to the other in a flexible and empathetic way

  • Prepare for a life together or relationship transition

  • Understand your own and the other’s reactions and responses better

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If you are low on time, have that one thing you keep fighting over, or are ready for a faster change now, check out couples intensives.

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FAQs

  • I use two primary types of therapy when working with couples: Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman techniques. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is helpful for identifying and changing the underlying patterns that you experience that cause you to feel stuck and unheard. This method really focuses on identifying and safely sharing the underlying emotions so the relationships feelings safer and more open.

    Gottman Couples Therapy is a scientifically based treatment that teaches techniques to help couples create a more fun, open, and positive relationship. I love using this method to help couples learn how to communicate in a way that helps them feel really heard and create that positive lasting change you are looking for.

  • Our first session is done with both partners present. During this and a few subsequent sessions I am assessing interactions between you and your partner. We will discuss your history, what you are noticing now, and what you would like to experience within your relationship instead of what is happening now.

    I then like to do an individual session for each partner. This session allows me to go over individual history and discuss any additional concerns you may have.

    There are assessments I like to send to couples that can really uncover some of the deeper issues within the relationship that we need to focus on. This allows us to get to the heart of the problem faster.

    Most all future sessions are done with you and your partner present together…cause after all, that is what you are here for. Couples therapy involves me facilitating the conversation between the two of you as much as possible. I want to get you in, improve your relationship, and on with your life together efficiently and effectively.

  • My rates are based on experience and trainings completed in Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.

    For a typical 55 minute session, couples therapy is $140. We can discuss if you would like to extend the session…which is often very helpful especially for couples that are really struggling. Extended sessions would be prorated based on my 55 min rate.

    I do take insurance because accessibility to quality care is important to me. However, depending on the diagnosis that would be made, sometimes couples therapy is not covered by insurance We can discuss this if it is a concern.

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*Couples therapy may not be covered by insurance

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